Frustrated

[Hope/peace]

I have so much I wish to say, so much anger, dissapointment and frustration.

I am a mother of 4 children and our second eldest has BPD with other overlapping mental illnesses.

I am angry for the lack of support we have had from health professionals, he has seen % pschologists, 3 pschyrisits and they all have said he is too diifficult to deal with and that they could no longer see him. To hear that when your world is upsude down is so heartybreaking.

I am angry with family members, particularily my parents who have basically disowned my son cause he has an mental illness.

I'm angry with this disorder to have affected my son so much and I just wish he would come back, but know this won't happen, he is going to be different.

I'm angry that his 2 younger siblings have to live with all that goes on, and for the things they have heard, seen, its not fair.

I'm angry that this mental illness is putting so much pressure on family relationship, including my marriage.

And does anyone understand? NO :'( :'( I feel so alone and isolated, I just wish for the day to shine again and there be no darkness.

Am I the only one who feels like this?

Does anyone understand?

I am so very tired.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Surnia]

Hi Hope/peace

and 

So sorry to hear this. So much challenges and pain regarding your son. 

This is very tough. And feeling alone and isolated is making tired and everything worse.

Good you reached out and found us. Its so important sharing the own story!

How old is your son?

May I ask you what kind of other mental illness he is diagnosed?

Please keep in touch, Hope!

Surnia

[Rapt Reader]

Hi, Hope/peace & I'd like to join Surnia in welcoming you to this site... .

You really are not alone, Hope/peace; there are many of us with children with BPD. In fact, my own adult (36) son was only diagnosed with BPD in April 2013, and finding this site shortly after is what has saved my family. So, please know that you are in the right place   

I, also, would like to know how old your son is... .You say he has other issues? I ask this because my son has been diagnosed with ADD, Depression, Anxiety, Suicidal Ideation, and Substance Abuse. It's been a very long time of troubles for him, and it wasn't until just this past March and April, when he checked in to a 21-day Intensive Inpatient Dual Diagnosis Program (where he was finally diagnosed with BPD and treated for it), where there was finally light at the end of the tunnel.

If your son has multiple mental health issues, he might be able to find a Dual Diagnosis Program... .this was the first thing that has helped my son turn his life around--it was there that he finally realized what his problems were, found out what the best treatments were, and he decided he wanted to get better. If you are interested in reading my son's story, you can check out My Son's Dual DX Pgm & NFT Story. You might find some solace to know how he got help, and to know that he is doing really well now 

Please continue to tell us more of your situation, and ask more of your questions; we have many people here who can give you support, information and insights, comfort and advice. You are not alone, Hope/peace! We are here for you... .Don't give up 

[qcarolr]

And does anyone understand? NO :'( :'( I feel so alone and isolated, I just wish for the day to shine again and there be no darkness.

Am I the only one who feels like this?

Does anyone understand?

I am so very tired.

hope/peace - yes, the weariness of it all. I get that. The sense of isolation from family and friends. Yes. I experience this too. there are many parents here - we do understand - we care.

What can you do to find some care for yourself? Be kind to yourself. The stronger we each can become, the better able we can learn the many effective tools and skills (see Family Connections links to the right) and put them to use in our life. They work with our family, friends, and ultimately with our BPD kids.

I am coming out of a long dark time this year with my BPDDD27, and the sun is just peeking over the horizon for her. Hang in there - read and practice as you are able - keep coming back to let us know how you are doing.

qcr