Need advice from you guys

[summerton]

I am so torn between staying and leaving!  I left for 7 months about 6 years ago and was much happier at first and I think my wife was, too. Over the last several months things have gone down hill.  Seems like almost anything I say starts an argument. She drives people away with her anger which boils over, sometimes with no warning at all.  These days, I am totally caught up in worring about my house and all the responsibilities that go with it as well as figuring out how to pay for another place to stay.  I feel so alone with my thoughts. Any advice is greatly appreciated. 

[havana]

I know how you feel summerton. I was married to my wife for almost 42 years. She passed away in 2012. It becomes more & more difficult to deal with the issues the older you get. Where did you go when you left for the 7 months?

[summerton]

I moved into a small studio apt, but even that was a challenge to pay for.

[allibaba]

Summerton,

Have you tried the various tools to help defuse conflict?  

Have you asked yourself why you stay?

I'm so sorry that you are feeling so alone.  Welcome to bpdfamily though!   

[Changingman]

Do you have children? Why is she there?

[momtara]

Is she willing to get therapy if it comes down to it?