doesshecare
I am so glad you have found us. First - please be kind to yourself. You did the best you could as a parent - there are often genetic factors with BPD. This is especially true when things are so hard from an early age. I have been there. I was searching for help for my DD when she was 2. The last entry in her baby book is at 11 months about her tantrums. I have worked to learn all I could throughout her life - advocating for her at school, in neighborhood, with medical and mental health professionals. This is so tough.
There is so much new researched based information available now that supports we parents. BPD is not caused by abuse or bad parenting. Now those things can make things worse -- we can always learn new tools to make it better. Our awesome neurological systems are flexible and can change -- as we change ourselves as parents there is often a positive impact on our BPDkids.
I invite you to check out the links at the right. They have given me my life back. My Dd is now 27. She still struggles yet is slowing moving in a more positive direction. We have a better relationship.
May I ask how old your D (daughter) is? How does her BPD show up? Is she in therapy? Does she accept that she needs help?
Keep coming back. We care - we understand.
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