custody and divorce done

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

My trial went to court today.   My now exwife lost pretty much everything.   She wasn't able to hide her BPD and crazy allegations from the court.

I was awarded full custody and she has 4 supervised visits per year.

I feel sad for her, but she brought this upon herself.   The order also doesn't her allow her mother, the kids grandma to see them.   She is super abusive.

It turned out very well for me.   It is sad and joyous at the same time.

[suffering_parent]

My trial went to court today.   My now exwife lost pretty much everything.   She wasn't able to hide her BPD and crazy allegations from the court.

I was awarded full custody and she has 4 supervised visits per year.

I feel sad for her, but she brought this upon herself.   The order also doesn't her allow her mother, the kids grandma to see them.   She is super abusive.

It turned out very well for me.   It is sad and joyous at the same time.

[Waddams]

It's got to be a huge relief and weight lifted off your shoulders.  Now you can turn to focusing on the kids and what's next for building a better life!

Congratulations!

[ugghh]

Glad you had a good outcome

[Nope]

Congratulations SP. It's always nice to hear when someone manages to successfully navigate the court system on behalf of their children. 

[livednlearned]

I think I recall you had two custody cases in two countries? Is everything settled in both? Seems to me the one is Canada was bogus, and that you're in the U.S?

I ended up with sole custody too, primarily because N/BPDx could not contain his raging. He threatened the parenting coordinator, insulted his own attorney, threatened my attorney, and from the sounds of his psychiatric evaluation, he didn't tone it down a bit for the psychiatrist.

Way back in the beginning of all this my therapist told me N/BPDx didn't want S12.  :'( I just can't wrap my head around that, no matter how hard I try. I don't understand. It's like N/BPDx did everything he could to lose custody. Sounds like your ex was following the same script.

It's sad, but it's a relief too. My ex has figured out a way to keep the drama going, unfortunately. Amazing how much chaos a person is allowed to generate using the court system.

Anyway, congratulations. Thanks for letting us know. I hope your kids are doing ok.  

[suffering_parent]

Congratulations SP. It's always nice to hear when someone manages to successfully navigate the court system on behalf of their children. 

I was fortunate that I had a very good guardian ad litem.   My ex was really crazy and could not hide it.   She did so many stupid things... .

My biggest piece of evidence was recording her phone conversations with the kids.   They were so inappropriate.  Blaming me, talking about court, talking about her boyfriend etc...

Document everything and record everything.

[suffering_parent]

I think I recall you had two custody cases in two countries? Is everything settled in both? Seems to me the one is Canada was bogus, and that you're in the U.S?

I ended up with sole custody too, primarily because N/BPDx could not contain his raging. He threatened the parenting coordinator, insulted his own attorney, threatened my attorney, and from the sounds of his psychiatric evaluation, he didn't tone it down a bit for the psychiatrist.

Way back in the beginning of all this my therapist told me N/BPDx didn't want S12.  :'( I just can't wrap my head around that, no matter how hard I try. I don't understand. It's like N/BPDx did everything he could to lose custody. Sounds like your ex was following the same script.

It's sad, but it's a relief too. My ex has figured out a way to keep the drama going, unfortunately. Amazing how much chaos a person is allowed to generate using the court system.

Anyway, congratulations. Thanks for letting us know. I hope your kids are doing ok.  

I still have a case in Canada open.   It should get dismissed.   I think she filed for divorce up there also.   I don't think you can get divorced twice.

It helps when they can't control their rage.

[livednlearned]

It helps when they can't control their rage.

I feel a thousand feelings reading that.

It's a hard-fought, battle weary but true statement.

[Nope]

I was fortunate that I had a very good guardian ad litem.   My ex was really crazy and could not hide it.   She did so many stupid things... .

My biggest piece of evidence was recording her phone conversations with the kids.   They were so inappropriate.  Blaming me, talking about court, talking about her boyfriend etc...

Document everything and record everything.

We were told by our L that none of the recordings of the kids talking to their BPDmom were admissible. But we have plenty of recordings of my SO trying to co-parent with her and her raging and lying. We also have independent evidence that proves a lot of lies. Unfortunately you are right that the crazier they are the easier it is to get action from the court.

[DontPanic]

Glad to hear that you won and boy I get the hollowness of the victory. You can feel good in knowing that for your kids will do better without all that chaos in their lives. I hope you and your children do well and have a happy and rewarding life.

Cheers