"I want you to have my child."
She was ready to have my baby just a couple months after we met.
"You have no idea what pain is."
yep. Word for word. And variants where other words are used in place of pain, such as "depression".
"I love you. I really do."
Or, "I love you so much" "without you I would die"
"Why do you want to be with me? I'm a loser."
Yep. Word for word.
"You're insane. If you think you're normal, you're definitely not. Maybe YOU should be committed."
Variants of this. That I am abnormal, or I need counseling, or that I need to solve my issues.
"I hate you."
Only during rages. It's just words, but it really hurts. I've never had anyone else say this to me before.
"I'm gonna cut myself if you don't shut up."
"I will kill myself if you leave."
"You're a liar."
Don't think she has ever directly called me a liar.
"Why are you so good to me? I don't deserve it."
Yep. Word for word.
"Was that guy looking at you?"
Yes. Or, "who was that, do you know her?" "I notice other women looking at you all the time."
"I need a break." (when I found out I wasn't pregnant)
Never. I wish she would want a break.
"I need a drink. NOW."
She's 11 years sober, but replace drink with "chocolate" and yes, but also sometimes she says she feels like drinking.
"I don't want to be touched."
Never.
"No one has ever f***ed me as good as you. Wow."
I think variants of this, yes.
"Why are you so needy?"
Never.
"I didn't grow up spoiled like you."
Never. She does bring up my childhood, "you had a normal childhood, so you wouldn't understand."
"Stop crying. You're always crying... . f***ing crybaby."
During rages, she has told me to stop crying.
"All I have good in my life are you and alcohol."
yes, but delete the alcohol. "You are the only thing good in my life." Scares the crap out of me, makes me feel like her happiness hinges on me - HUGE pressure.
Me: "Why do you do such hurtful things to me?" Him: "Idk. Because I'm crazy. I'm me."
I've never asked her directly this, but the other day she did "apologize" for the months of hell last summer, saying, "You know all that was me dealing with my own s**t, and had nothing to do with you."
"Baby, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me."
Yep.
"I need to get away from you."
Never.
