Ever watch you BPD devolve via text or email right in front of you.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Cipher,

Just thought i would chime in. There are apps available that will backup all of your SMS messages at regualr intervals that you specify. The backup logs are then emailed to an address of your choice. If you need to access the backed up SMS messages you simly open the file up with teh app and they are available for viewing. There might even be apps that allow you to print the saves SMS, I'm not sure.

[Proud_Dad]

Cipher,

Just thought i would chime in. There are apps available that will backup all of your SMS messages at regualr intervals that you specify. The backup logs are then emailed to an address of your choice. If you need to access the backed up SMS messages you simly open the file up with teh app and they are available for viewing. There might even be apps that allow you to print the saves SMS, I'm not sure.

[Cipher13]

The thing with the passport is tough, like many things in your life, Cipher13. I am wondering if this is legal, keeping someone else's documents? 

I am not worried about that right now I guess. I'm not leaving the country for any reason. Plus if it comes down to legal issues I would imagine she would have to be told to return it to me.

Just thought i would chime in. There are apps available that will backup all of your SMS messages at regualr intervals that you specify. The backup logs are then emailed to an address of your choice. If you need to access the backed up SMS messages you simly open the file up with teh app and they are available for viewing. There might even be apps that allow you to print the saves SMS, I'm not sure.

My phone is old school but thanks for the info if I get a new one.

[GaGrl]

You need her paystub to show her earning capability.  If she should quit her job and attempt to claim alimony, you need to be able to show that you were both/equally contributing to the household finances -- just because she decides to be unemployed doesn't mean she automatically gets alimony.

Also, it's a good idea to have copies of your income tax returns for the past few years.

[GaGrl]

Also, the fact that she walks around with your passport in her purse is just weird.

[Cipher13]

I have to do our taxes yet.  I will make copies of the last few returns and keep them on hand. Is it wrong that I am looking for an apartement online and thinking that sounds like it would be fun. I have a 3 bedroom 1500 sqft house. I'm so not feeling well. And its the situation that has my stomach in knots.

[lauren50]

I resonded with Do you really think that if I am removed from your life that everything will be better? I don’t feel that way.   I then get back "And I really think your full of it. Counseling will not help it is a proven fact that you have not nor will ever do anything that the counselor tells you to do. I have no idea if I would be happier without you. I hate you and all that you have don to me. I hate how you talk to me and treat me. I hate how you would rather me go to sylvan everyday in misery and then treat me just as poorly when I get home. I hate you

Then i replay with I think counseling will help. I am on board with doing what it takes. Are you willing to do the same?

Her "I really don't know the answer to that.  I don't believe that you are "on board for doing what it takes".  I don't believe that you will do anything at all.  You say you will and then it will be how it always is where you do it for just a period of time and then we are back to the same old crap…you not doing what you say you will. I don't feel like I should have to do anything.  I am not the one who has done anything wrong to you.  I haven't disrespected you by doing behavior that caused anything.  I haven't caused any of this.  This is what you have created and what you have done and keep doing to me.  I am sick of dealing with this and what you have done to me.

So i responded with just "I love you"

Her "What the hell is that?  I write that entire thing and that is what you say to me…Whatever.

My BPDh is just like this... . everything's my fault. I'm the one that needs to change. I don't love him. 

Good luck with your exit plan... . I have one child and one on the way and I'd rather live in a studio apartment than live with him. The former sounds like paradise in comparison!

[Cipher13]

Freedom does not have a square foot limit.

[Waddams]

Online accounts can have passwords changed.  If she changes passwords and refuses to give you access, you're in trouble. Court can order her to release the information but better to download all the statements and save them to start with.

I'd make sure I had paper copies of everything to start with.  And when the time comes, I'd just demand my passport on the spot.  If she refuses, I'd call the cops.