BPD/NPD

[arn131arn]

just read an article on NPD; and I believe my ex was probably both comorbid NPD/BPD... . I thought these two were polar opposites?

Can someone explain how this can happen?

Yes, very vile human being indeed

Arn

[Surnia]

Both, NPD and BPD are so called cluster B disorders. So they have some things common.

And comorbidity is not so seldom. You can find here some more info: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=90388.msg1293352#msg1293352

[Johnny Alias]

You'll find a great deal of conflicting information regarding Cluster B disorders online.  You're in the analysis phase trying to figure out what went wrong.  

In all honesty I've found that the Cluster B disorder traits be it HPD, BPD, NPD, all overlap to some degree at different times.  

If a BPD is in Waif mode (sick, needy, helpless) she's more likely to be histrionic.  If she's in Witch mode (Raging, Abusive) she's more likely to be borderline... . but as a I say these modes can change seemingly on a dime.  

Narcissism and self absorbtion are hallmarks for ALL of these.  It is the one consistent trait.  ME, ME, ME.  Though there may be moments when they admit imperfection and mistakes it is usually to elicit sympathy, pity, money, etc. from you.  

In other words they don't really believe it.  

The fact is if she is a Cluster B she is BAD for you.

[bpdspell]

My ex was certainly a full blown Narcissist and Borderline. Borderline in that he was often emotionally dsyregulated, lacked impulse control, lacked reciprocity, and had a very weak sense of self and Narcissistic in that he was very punishing, sadistic, controlling, entitled, possessive and had an extremely heightened sense of importance even though he actually accomplished very little in life.

The How?

Personality disorders run on a spectrum and can exist cormorbidly with a touch of HPD here, anti-social there…socio path there…it truly depends on the individual. There's no black or white when it comes to these disorders.

My ex was pretty sick and mentally scrambled but he hid it well until what lived under a full blown mask was revealed. The red flags were there all along: superficial charm, mirroring, over complementing me, stroking my ego, telling me all the things I wanted to hear and otherwise full blown seduction. Because of my own issues I was impervious and blind to the lies and got caught up.

Never again.

Spell