My first therapy appt. today

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Long story short: hBPD told me a couple months ago he thought about committing suicide. i called crisis line. talked to psychologists and eventually made my way to a therapist on my own.

I had no expectations of how the appt would go but I had some ideas of what could happen. The good news is, she really helped me to see that the things hBPD says and does to me on a daily basis is abuse. This helps me think clearly about the decision to stay or leave for my kids and myself. The bad news is, she also really helped me see that I've exhausted my options. It's up to him to get help if our marriage will get better and unfortunately, I have no hope of that ever happening. Being 10 weeks pregnant with our second child makes the decision hard but at the same time, with things only getting worse and worse with him, it makes it a little easier. I just don't know yet though.

[lauren50]

Long story short: hBPD told me a couple months ago he thought about committing suicide. i called crisis line. talked to psychologists and eventually made my way to a therapist on my own.

I had no expectations of how the appt would go but I had some ideas of what could happen. The good news is, she really helped me to see that the things hBPD says and does to me on a daily basis is abuse. This helps me think clearly about the decision to stay or leave for my kids and myself. The bad news is, she also really helped me see that I've exhausted my options. It's up to him to get help if our marriage will get better and unfortunately, I have no hope of that ever happening. Being 10 weeks pregnant with our second child makes the decision hard but at the same time, with things only getting worse and worse with him, it makes it a little easier. I just don't know yet though.

[maxsterling]

I just want to say I'm sorry you are going through this.  And you are right, it's up to him for his behavior to change.  I remember when my T finally used the word "abuse".  Even though I already knew it, and I felt she was holding her tongue not to use that word, just hearing her say it definitely changed my brain.

[an0ught]

Hi lauren50,

good you are looking after yourself. Being pregnant makes dealing with drama really scary and hard 

How did your appointment go?