I have been unblocked by my exUBPDgf on Facebook.

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

I have recently been sent a friend request by one of my exUBPDgf cousins. At first, I didn't recognize who this friend request was from(no mutual friends). I decided to look into it. This person's profile is public. I start looking through the pictures to see if I recognize this person. I don't know who she is. I start looking at who liked the picture. I start noticing after a few pictures, the number of likes doesn't match the number of people shown(I start wondering is this her or one of the mutual friends I blocked). I keep looking through the pictures. Same trend. Every once and a while, I notice the likes not matching number of people shown and one picture with a comment and when i click on the picture to read the comment, it doesn't show and number of likes doesn't match number shown. I keep looking. I need to know who the this is. Finally, I see a name.One of the people who liked one of the pictures, is one of her very close guy cousins. I look at the last name and I look at the person's name who sent me friend request, and the last name was placed first and the first name was placed last. Bingo! It is her. My medusa. I have never met that person who sent the friend request, she doesn't know me at all. So why send that friend request? In the past, I would normally accept most people who sent me a friend request on facebook without really caring who it was(my exUBPDgf knows this). She thought I would have just accepted this person without a second thought and been privy to what I have been doing all this time(almost 8 months NC). Had I not looked into the matter, I would have not connected that this is almost a direct attempt by her via another person. A "feeler". Now I know that she is trying. Good move Medusa. It didn't work.

 

[maxen]

I have recently been sent a friend request by one of my exUBPDgf cousins. At first, I didn't recognize who this friend request was from(no mutual friends). I decided to look into it. This person's profile is public. I start looking through the pictures to see if I recognize this person. I don't know who she is. I start looking at who liked the picture. I start noticing after a few pictures, the number of likes doesn't match the number of people shown(I start wondering is this her or one of the mutual friends I blocked). I keep looking through the pictures. Same trend. Every once and a while, I notice the likes not matching number of people shown and one picture with a comment and when i click on the picture to read the comment, it doesn't show and number of likes doesn't match number shown. I keep looking. I need to know who the this is. Finally, I see a name.One of the people who liked one of the pictures, is one of her very close guy cousins. I look at the last name and I look at the person's name who sent me friend request, and the last name was placed first and the first name was placed last. Bingo! It is her. My medusa. I have never met that person who sent the friend request, she doesn't know me at all. So why send that friend request? In the past, I would normally accept most people who sent me a friend request on facebook without really caring who it was(my exUBPDgf knows this). She thought I would have just accepted this person without a second thought and been privy to what I have been doing all this time(almost 8 months NC). Had I not looked into the matter, I would have not connected that this is almost a direct attempt by her via another person. A "feeler". Now I know that she is trying. Good move Medusa. It didn't work.

 

[Ironmanrises]

I would not be surprised if a direct contact is just around the corner. Had this been many months ago after she first left, I would have been in a weakened position. Now, after many months have past, after much time spent on here, I am on a much firmer footing for that very possible scenario. 

[blissful_camper]

I would not be surprised if a direct contact is just around the corner. Had this been many months ago after she first left, I would have been in a weakened position. Now, after many months have past, after much time spent on here, I am on a much firmer footing for that very possible scenario. 

Once you've crossed the threshold, and you have, there's no going back. 

[MrConfused]

Scrolling through some old pictures of mine on Facebook(not looking for anything related to her), I have noticed(quick glance) that her profile picture shows in comments(she used to comment a lot on my stuff). The picture is an old one of her and did not trigger me this time. With me being unblocked now, makes me wonder if I will be re engaged again. With Valentine's Day tomorrow, I am wondering if her cyclic behavior will lead her back in my direction. I am of the mind that a pwBPD simply does not "move on" as is repeatedly referenced on here(a pwNPD would be more predisposed to such behavior). For me to know that I am healing correctly, I would have to successfully rebuff a re engagement attempt.

Are you sure you've been unblocked? If I go far enough back on my timeline I can still see her comments, current FB name (she changes it... . o.O) & current profile pic. However, I can't click on it nor can I visit her profile. It's a bug in FB I guess.

[RecycledNoMore]

IronmanRISES.

Absolutely.