Anyone know of pwBPD hitting rock bottom and sought help?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I was just wondering if there's anyone on here that can share a success story of a pwBPD that actually hit their rock bottom and used it to seek help... . And got help?

A person usually will hit rock bottom when the pain of what ever their affliction is becomes greater than the shame of being exposed. It's so sad as I see my uBPDxw throwing her life away and destroying all her relationships with everyone who has ever cared about her.  I know she's in a lot of pain and causes a TON of pain for those closest to her but she just can't admit that something needs to be done. I know she knows that she's F***ed up (her words) as she's admitted to it in times of extreme agitation but it passes quickly and she goes back to her lying and manipulating ways.

VERY SAD!

[mywifecrazy]

I was just wondering if there's anyone on here that can share a success story of a pwBPD that actually hit their rock bottom and used it to seek help... . And got help?

A person usually will hit rock bottom when the pain of what ever their affliction is becomes greater than the shame of being exposed. It's so sad as I see my uBPDxw throwing her life away and destroying all her relationships with everyone who has ever cared about her.  I know she's in a lot of pain and causes a TON of pain for those closest to her but she just can't admit that something needs to be done. I know she knows that she's F***ed up (her words) as she's admitted to it in times of extreme agitation but it passes quickly and she goes back to her lying and manipulating ways.

VERY SAD!

[Surnia]

Yes, its sad to see someone destroying his life. And difficult to stay grounded for us sometimes, realizing this .

Sometimes yes, there are success stories out there. Did you see the thread on the Staying board?

Success stories.

[mywifecrazy]

Just what I suspected. There is no hope for them! I was listening to a radio program called New Life Live and someone called in about father with BPD. The hosts said to the caller that it's highly unlikely that pwBPD ever get help because they're incapable of accepting that they have a problem. I guess it's a very small percentage of pwBPD that actually hit rock bottom and get the help they need.

[MissTajo]

I was just wondering if there's anyone on here that can share a success story of a pwBPD that actually hit their rock bottom and used it to seek help... . And got help?

My BPDbf mutilated himself and tried to kill himself , ended up sleeping on the streets and after that and after being taken to the hospital (he was so heavily medicated for OCD he doesnt remember much) he found a therapist, never mutilated himself again or treatened to end his life. He quit the one night stands and got envolved in studing web design. He has been in a relationship with me for a year and a half and is seeing his therapist every week (no the same one that helped him in the beggining) for the last 7 months.

He is still struggling. He is aware of whats going on when he "looses it" and has been learning to deal with it. Not. Easy. But it is something

[goldylamont]

I have heard of pwBPD seeking help and getting therapy, and in ways it seemed to help them out some. but i've heard scant evidence that this helps the nons in r/s with them. however perhaps there's more stories like this on the Staying board?

i had a friend ask me if i ever thought my ex would get better. i said pretty much no. and he reacted as if i were being mean, but i wasn't. just realistic. it's the naivete of the people and their good hearts in my opinion that enable BPD's to continue to behave the way they do. my ex probably has 100 people easy in her life (including ex's, friends, family) who have been fooled into thinking "she will get better" and she can always seem to find more (like me . so realistically i just don't see it happening, but that's a pragmatic guess, not a damnation

[pessim-optimist]

The following book is a true story, which answers your question in the affirmative:

Get Me Out of Here

For the so-called low-functioning persons w/BPD, it is more typical that they seek help, as they often suffer suicidal ideation/suicide attempts, self-harm, addictions etc. that land them in the mental-health system, and they understand that they have a problem.

For the so-called high-functioning persons w/BPD, it is more rare, as they are adept at blaming their problems on others and often succeed in believing and persuading themselves that it's not them, who has a problem.

The key to recovery is for the person w/BPD to realize that something is seriously wrong AND to be courageous and motivated enough to see the process through in therapy. It is the exception, for high-functioning BPDs, not the rule. Yet, it does happen.

[mywifecrazy]

For the so-called high-functioning persons w/BPD, it is more rare, as they are adept at blaming their problems on others and often succeed in believing and persuading themselves that it's not them, who has a problem.

Yes these are the ones that I was wondering if they ever got help. My uBPDxw is high functioning and I just don't see her getting help. She is a MASTER manipulator and is very CONVINCING when she is working on you. Scary to think what it would take for her to hit rock bottom!