Special Master

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Is there anyone out there who has had a special master appointed with a BPDex co-parent?

We have been told a hundred times by therapists, attorney's that this is the "way to go" since BPD mom won't co-parent/compromise/negotiate or deescalate ever.

The one thing is though that both parties would have to agree to it, and she won't agree the sun sets in the west.

Is it possible the judge orders her to a special master if she continues to be difficult?

Do special masters have a bias or learning curve toward disordered people?

Thanks

[bravhart1]

Is there anyone out there who has had a special master appointed with a BPDex co-parent?

We have been told a hundred times by therapists, attorney's that this is the "way to go" since BPD mom won't co-parent/compromise/negotiate or deescalate ever.

The one thing is though that both parties would have to agree to it, and she won't agree the sun sets in the west.

Is it possible the judge orders her to a special master if she continues to be difficult?

Do special masters have a bias or learning curve toward disordered people?

Thanks

[sfbayjed]

This may not apply to your state but here in California the court can not delegate its authority to a special master in a family law case unless both parties agree. I agree that it is the way to go.  My hopefully soon to be ex wanted a special master and I was hesitant to do so because I thought she would be making an issue of everything with the special master to try to run the fees up. 

Things have gotten a lot less stressful for me since the special master was appointed and paying the special master is a lot less expensive than going to court over everything. 

[david]

I believe both parties must sign a consent for a special master. If she doesn't sign then you can use that as more evidence of her unwillingness to co parent.