Two pushes in last couple weeks

[formflier]

So... . to add to my story.

Twice in the last couple weeks she (uBPDw) place her hand on me and shoved to get me to leave the room.  Nothing verbal first.

I am much larger than her... . so I was never in any danger... . but... . what do I need to do if this happens again?

I have records (audio)... . but nothing provable (video).

I have written things from her alluding to she would "get me", get the word out about me, police would come get me at my job,

she has called 911 a couple times to report my "behavior"... . all made up or distorted... . but requested no response... . and to my knowledge... no police ever came to the house.

I wan to save marriage... . but also want to be realistic... . she is pushing to gain back control.  I will get off the crazy train... . one way or another.

Hoping for some good advice.

[formflier]

she has admitted to our marriage counselor that she put her hands on me for one of the events.  The marriage counselor quizzed her about this... . and she responed yes several times.

Not sure if that matters for "proof".

[ForeverDad]

She could be trying to construct a history of repeated calls for help, reports or calls she could try to use against you at a future time.  Or she could be doing it to manipulate you into appeasing or compliant behaviors.  It could be either one - or both.

Frankly, your future could probably will visits by the police.  As is often said here, If allegations are contemplated or threatened, then it's just a matter of time before it happens.  Even if you are the one who calls, you could be the one carted off.  In my case, I called 911.  By the time the police arrived, my now-ex had calmed a bit and was claiming I was the one misbehaving.  Fortunately I had recorded but I couldn't retrieve it from my device, it didn't have a working speaker.  An officer asked me to "step away".  I had been holding my quietly sobbing preschooler.  Looking back I think my son saved me that day, he started shrieking when I tried to pull him off me to hand him over to his mother as requested.  What kid won't go to his own mother?  The officer stared at me for a long moment, said "work it out" and they left.  Months later my divorce lawyer, a former policeman, said the standard policy is to cart away one of the persons in a domestic incident, usually the man, regardless who was at fault.  Yes, my son saved me.

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