Dear Celisara
I do remember your story and I am sorry things are still a struggle for you all. Your sd therapist thinks there has been trama in your sd life? Does the T do DBT therapy? What meds is she on now? I suspect that things like this have been going on for sometime but she is only getting cought right now.
What is the plan going forward? Are you taking her for an evaluation? Hang in there... . these are some of the toughest times for these kids.
I am not sure exactly what kind of therapy the T uses but I can definitely find out. She apparently must think there has been trauma, but can't tell me what it was. She is currently taking Welbutrin but the T thinks that she may need Lithium to mellow her out. DH is really unhappy about putting her on meds in the first place, and putting her on Lithium seems extreme to him.
We are going to have her get a full evaluation and hopefully that will help us figure out what is going on. I did have lab work done at our normal physician and that came back normal so it rules out any of the common medical causes of depression/mood instability.
We are taking things one day at a time right now. Other than planning for the evaluation, she is just going to continue to speak with her T and the T wants to sit down with DH and I to discuss things. We are kind of lost as far as how to handle things at home with her. We can't keep her cooped up in our house and never let her spend time with friends, but she continually gets into trouble with the girls she chooses to hang out with. We have talked about only allowing her to have people hang out at our house, not allowing her to go anywhere without us for a while. From now on, there will always need to be an adult present and we will have to be speaking with the adult before she ever leaves our house without us.
It's a hard thing because if we keep her on too tight of a leash, she could rebel and things could get worse. At the same time though, we obviously can't just allow her to go off and do whatever she wants to.