Formflier is going to stand in front of the Landing Signal Officers

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Congratz!  It's nice to hear people important to your life basically validate you and let you know they are supportive.  It makes it much easier to deal with.  I'd wondered if it would have been better for you to make the hearing public.  The evidence going public of DSS ignoring the real issue could be very powerful for you.  As said before, it's pouring gas on the fire and seeing what happens, but BPD's generally breakdown and show their dysfunction the more their pressured.

There's a good lesson here - one I found too - when you talk about stuff like this, more people than I expected either said, "Yeah, that happened to me too." or at least hinted at something similar.  I wasn't as alone as I thought!

This.  There is so much wrong with VAWA, right down to it's very name.  I understand the basic intent, but VAWA's implementation definitely doesn't follow the whole Congress shall make no law that favors anyone based on gender part of the Constitution. 

[Waddams]

Congratz!  It's nice to hear people important to your life basically validate you and let you know they are supportive.  It makes it much easier to deal with.  I'd wondered if it would have been better for you to make the hearing public.  The evidence going public of DSS ignoring the real issue could be very powerful for you.  As said before, it's pouring gas on the fire and seeing what happens, but BPD's generally breakdown and show their dysfunction the more their pressured.

There's a good lesson here - one I found too - when you talk about stuff like this, more people than I expected either said, "Yeah, that happened to me too." or at least hinted at something similar.  I wasn't as alone as I thought!

This.  There is so much wrong with VAWA, right down to it's very name.  I understand the basic intent, but VAWA's implementation definitely doesn't follow the whole Congress shall make no law that favors anyone based on gender part of the Constitution. 

[formflier]

Exactly!

And... . in situations like these... . I try to remind myself of one or two things... . to not forget.

And... . someone on this board say be succint.  Several others didn't use that words... . but said get to the point... . don't answer what you weren't asked.

So... . I kep that in mind... . got it said... . did NOT play any recordings... . but we talked... . they expressed support for me and my family,  were supportive of my job performance, expressed sorrow at what I was going through... . wished me luck.  

Again... I'm relieved... . I'm thankful.  I know this is not a a victory in a war... . but now I know where I stand with my job.  That takes a load off.

Good news!

I couldn't ask for a more supportive board.

I briefly sketched out the story.  Told them I was an open book for future inquiries.

Most of them expessed that I could call them for advice... . some hinted they had been in similar situations.

So... . this is a good thing.

Wow - congratulations!  Sounds like you handled it well.

There's a good lesson here - one I found too - when you talk about stuff like this, more people than I expected either said, "Yeah, that happened to me too." or at least hinted at something similar.  I wasn't as alone as I thought!

[livednlearned]

Good news!

I couldn't ask for a more supportive board.

I briefly sketched out the story.  Told them I was an open book for future inquiries.

Most of them expessed that I could call them for advice... . some hinted they had been in similar situations.

So... . this is a good thing.

Wow - congratulations!  Sounds like you handled it well.

There's a good lesson here - one I found too - when you talk about stuff like this, more people than I expected either said, "Yeah, that happened to me too." or at least hinted at something similar.  I wasn't as alone as I thought!

This is true for me too. During two business trips schedule 10 days apart, N/BPDx had a major episode of... . something. Rage, alcohol, psychosis. I had to cancel the second trip because I was worried about S12's safety being home alone with his dad.

I had to tell my boss and supervisor. They moved mountains for me and have been two of my strongest supporters.

It's both sad and comforting to learn others have walked this path.

I'm glad your workplace has your back, formflier. It's important to have a calm place in the storm.

[KateCat]

Terrific news!

Support from your pastor and now support from your workplace. Tremendous progress forward in a very few days.

Your parents must be quite distressed right now, but also very proud of the son they raised. 

Have you mentioned any news of your wife? Do her parents communicate with your parents or anything?

[Grey Kitty]

   I'm delighted to hear something going in your favor today!

Good news!

I couldn't ask for a more supportive board!

[DontPanic]

Hey FormFlier,

Your situation seems interesting, I do hope things work out for you. when everything was said and done in my case. we'd had 12 lawyers 3 judges... countless psychologists... and a dang partridge in a pear tree... I feel your pain

Take care!

[GaGrl]

Very good news... . it's amazing how much support is out there when we are open to it.

[formflier]

Yep... parents are worried... and a bit in the dark.  My Mom sort of was trying to get me to let her know what was going on... . and it's not that I don't trust my parents... I just didn't want to get into it.

They know I'm taking a break for a a while... . and that my wife and I have been working on things for a while.

They are both in 70s... . and my Dad is recovering from some major surgery... . it is going well... . but still... they are both not full up rounds to burned with lots of details.

It has been very nice to spend more time with them... have long dinners... . and just talk about all kinds of things.

I have not told them or anyone else that I have been in contact with my wife.  (We sporadically text... . all business... no emotion or relationship stuff) 

My parents and her parents have never been close... . they live far away... . so I would be shocked if they have talked.

I haven't heard of that happening.

Terrific news!

Support from your pastor and now support from your workplace. Tremendous progress forward in a very few days.

Your parents must be quite distressed right now, but also very proud of the son they raised. 

Have you mentioned any news of your wife? Do her parents communicate with your parents or anything?