I've given it all I got captain... well Scotty you still suck

[byfaith]

I have been with my uBPDw for three years now and also her son who suffers with SZ lives with us (he is almost 30) he has lived with us for that time. In these three years I have done all I know to do to help and encourage and be supportive of both of them. I have even ignored some of the needs of my own grown children. I have spent personal time trying to help him I have spent time trying to encourage my wife to go to support groups to help her, myself and her son. She doesn’t want to do any of that. I have even gone by myself to support groups just for the SZ her son suffers with.

Three days ago my wife took her son to the dr and the doc took him off one anti psychotic med cold turkey and placed him on another (stupid). Well her son has been showing symptoms of old behavior.

She told me she was going to be up probably most of the night keeping an eye on him. She was either going to sleep out on the couch or do something to stay up. At about 11:00 pm she told me that I should just go on to bed but I sat up for a little longer then went into the bedroom and laid on the bed and fell asleep because I had to be up by 6:am. ( my wife does not work on a job she stays home)

So at maybe 4:30am my wife come in the room to get in the bed and I ask how XXX is doing. From what I remember she said he is doing alright just sitting outside on the deck. So she goes to sleep. My alarm goes off at 6:00 am and he comes through the bedroom door and tries to hit the alarm on my phone and says hey man (in a nice way) before you leave for work can you run me to the store? My wife told him that she would do that for him. I think all is “well”.

So my wife and I are having coffee before I have to leave for work. We are talking about the doctors irresponsible handling of the medication etc. Then there is a short silence and then she asks me “did you say hi to xxxx this morning?” I said yes when he came into the bedroom. Then there is another silence. Then she gets up like she is mad at me doesn’t look at me and walks out the door onto the deck pulling the door harder than she normally does. So in my mind she is mad at me because I didn’t pay enough attention to xxxx this morning. They were both sitting out on the deck as I left 15 minutes early. I asked xxx how he was feeling he said not good and I said I hope you get to feeling better and my wife ignored me as she walked into the house.

3 minutes down the road here come the texts. I won’t post the text here but she let me know how crappy it was that I left early with her and xxxx feeling the way they were.

She told me I didn’t care about her or xxxx last night. Then she sent me a text stating

“ do me a favor and just find something or someone to do after work” do I ask if that was a typo? With the someone to do?

There have been more texts since this posting telling me how bad I blew her and xxx off this morning.

Oh well, not sure what to do…...

Not sure how much more mental abuse I can take. This issue is only one element of all the other stuff we deal with. It never seems to end. I'm giving it all I have and in the end I am still a piece of crap (in her mind).