Why do they devalue after love?

[Ironmanrises]

A pwBPD has been devaluing the non long before the actual full blown devaluation/discard takes place. This occurs due to perceived abandonment(whether real or not) that the pwBPD fears so much that the increase intimacy of a relationship with a non will inevitably trigger devaluation, first in small slights here and there(followed by loving comments to keep the non off balance and attached) to the full geyser barrage of devaluation, often followed by discard. This is what I experienced with my UpwBPDgf who did this to me twice.