Love Not Returned

[msrcfam]

Why stay in a relationship with someone that blames everything on is and takes no responsibility for the chaos that they cause in the relationship?

I have been asking myself over-and-over lately why I am staying in a relationship that causes me such pain. A relationship that gives me occasional glimpse at what could be, but in all reality will never be.

Can someone please help me understand why we do it. I am struggling with the reality of the situation, and would love if someone could tell me what we get from staying with a BPD.

[JohnLove]

I will try to answer although others may direct you to the articles on here which are very helpful.

I will say in a very informal context the attention and the intense focus on you. It is intoxicating. Like a drug.

The high times are overwhelmed by the coming down. You want another hit!.

Non's can see the great value in their true self and what they "could be".

This is from a self confessed BPD junkie.

The answer lies somewhere in giving yourself the attention and focusing on YOU.

Take care of yourself. Develop a stronger sense of self. Stay in touch with you... .all the while going easy on yourself. I didn't say any of it would be easy but the answers are on that path.

Good luck and god speed.