Check..but no mate.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

So today my BPDexgf texted me letting me know that her gpa i knew has passed. Since she was sharing something personal so i thought... perhaps im white again. So i texted back my condolences and asked her hows shes holding up. Hours later no response. I dont get it... Why text me if you dont want to respond? Ive heard she got what she wanted from just me responding or that shes shifting between black and white with me as shes still feeling shame/guilt from the recent breakup. I just feel the door was opened then shut so quickly. Ive been wanting to talk to her lately and i was hoping this would open up a door for communication. Should i try further communication or let her be the one to initiate as she feels comfortable so she doesnt get pushed farther away? She told me after the breakup she needs "space" and not to "push" if i ever want anything with her if that helps any.

[Chasing_Ghosts]

So today my BPDexgf texted me letting me know that her gpa i knew has passed. Since she was sharing something personal so i thought... perhaps im white again. So i texted back my condolences and asked her hows shes holding up. Hours later no response. I dont get it... Why text me if you dont want to respond? Ive heard she got what she wanted from just me responding or that shes shifting between black and white with me as shes still feeling shame/guilt from the recent breakup. I just feel the door was opened then shut so quickly. Ive been wanting to talk to her lately and i was hoping this would open up a door for communication. Should i try further communication or let her be the one to initiate as she feels comfortable so she doesnt get pushed farther away? She told me after the breakup she needs "space" and not to "push" if i ever want anything with her if that helps any.

[Vexed]

My opinion.

Don't contact her.  When she texts you, respond if you want but don't ask questions, the context of your text should not require a response from her. 

Otherwise if you want to end it no contact at all.

[half-life]

Don't read too much into it. What if she is busy, forget to response, or can't think of a good thing to say. Isn't it an unnecessary torment to think of the lack of response as a rejection?

If you want to reach out to her then reach out. Otherwise just assume the message is lost somehow, if for no other reason than it makes you feel calmer.