About staying with a BPD, with the possibillity of making that person worse.

[borderdude]

I quote from this site:

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staying with them,

you are keeping them from developing

the emotional capacities.

You are enabling them to

continue being emotionally ill.

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I have an unique radar for the BPD and bipolar , as my mother have issues from both camps. I also have been with a girl before witch showed all possible behaviors mention under the BPD, but I'm not capable diagnosing people.

After I detected that my new girlfriend checked off several boxes in the BPD, I decided to go no contact. I still feel I have to tell her some info about her possible state as I see her suffering, so she can hopefully recover, maybe write an email later on.

I am an empath, I read people very well, in the start I told her that I saw a little girl in her, afraid being abandoned. She was positive, later on I saw how right I really was.

Q's:

* How can my loving accompaniment with a BPD make her worce?

* Should I gently tell her about what I think about her possible BPD in the future?

I guess I want a kind of comfort that I did the right thing of avoiding her, as she try to charm me in,

anyway thank you.

[borderdude]

I have spoken to her new 15yo younger boyfriend , he tries got get rid of her , they have broken up up tree times (in the last 3 weeks) she tries desperately to suck him in, he hopefully see how crazy she is,

the latest is,  he let her have the "in a relationship with ---hisname---", on facebook status, while he got no info in relationship status.