The joy of public absurdity

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

So, this morning, I woke up to a facebook friend request, from a guy named Phil.

Phil lives in England and is from England. (I live in the midwest part of the USA.) Phil's account was made on facebook for android on the 6th, has no pictures, and the only posts says "Honey, lets keep our pictures private".

Phil only has two facebook friends, both added on the day he joined. One of them is his fiance, Liz, and the other is my (x?)pwBPD... .who also has no ties to England that I know of.

Liz's account has only Phil as a friend and was also made on Sept 6th on facebook for android. She also lives in England.

She does have a really bad and oddly cropped profile pic, which is her only post besides her engagement posting on the 6th.

There are comments on the profile pic being posted... .the first by her saying "Honey I love you so much! I can't wait to see you at our home." and the second by Phil saying "Honey stop worrying, I love you and we're in love."

It was at this point that I cracked up laughing.

You know what I love about this?

I can simply send a link to this guy's profile to a friend and say "I got a friend request from this guy today."

They can go, see what I see, and completely for themselves go "What the heck?"

They can see how completely weird this is.

So much of the craziness in the past 4 months has been my own private craziness... .on display from him only to me... .or only through my telling friends.

It's so much of a freeing feeling sometimes to be able to just point a link at them, not say another word, and have them make their own conclusions about the weirdness, and be reassured that I'm not the only one seeing this as bonkers.


I'm still wondering what in the world this is supposed to be accomplishing... .when he is already on my facebook friends. Is he planning to delete me and wants to still have access to my page? Is he wanting to see if I'm trashing him behind his back? Is this the new gf, if she does really exist? Are there some sort of pictures of them on this guy's page that I would see if I accepted the request? Is this his way of telling me he's engaged and moving to England? Given that his last contact with me was about a friend request he'd gotten from someone connected to me that he appeared to have brought up just to tell me to give him distance because he had a replacement, is he trying to get me to do the same with him so he can tell me to go away again? Is this just to completely confuse me?

But... .this time... .I get to let others see the weirdness for themselves and wonder on their own what exactly he's up to.

Right now... .that's enough to make me feel better. :-)

[missblue]

So, this morning, I woke up to a facebook friend request, from a guy named Phil.

Phil lives in England and is from England. (I live in the midwest part of the USA.) Phil's account was made on facebook for android on the 6th, has no pictures, and the only posts says "Honey, lets keep our pictures private".

Phil only has two facebook friends, both added on the day he joined. One of them is his fiance, Liz, and the other is my (x?)pwBPD... .who also has no ties to England that I know of.

Liz's account has only Phil as a friend and was also made on Sept 6th on facebook for android. She also lives in England.

She does have a really bad and oddly cropped profile pic, which is her only post besides her engagement posting on the 6th.

There are comments on the profile pic being posted... .the first by her saying "Honey I love you so much! I can't wait to see you at our home." and the second by Phil saying "Honey stop worrying, I love you and we're in love."

It was at this point that I cracked up laughing.

You know what I love about this?

I can simply send a link to this guy's profile to a friend and say "I got a friend request from this guy today."

They can go, see what I see, and completely for themselves go "What the heck?"

They can see how completely weird this is.

So much of the craziness in the past 4 months has been my own private craziness... .on display from him only to me... .or only through my telling friends.

It's so much of a freeing feeling sometimes to be able to just point a link at them, not say another word, and have them make their own conclusions about the weirdness, and be reassured that I'm not the only one seeing this as bonkers.


I'm still wondering what in the world this is supposed to be accomplishing... .when he is already on my facebook friends. Is he planning to delete me and wants to still have access to my page? Is he wanting to see if I'm trashing him behind his back? Is this the new gf, if she does really exist? Are there some sort of pictures of them on this guy's page that I would see if I accepted the request? Is this his way of telling me he's engaged and moving to England? Given that his last contact with me was about a friend request he'd gotten from someone connected to me that he appeared to have brought up just to tell me to give him distance because he had a replacement, is he trying to get me to do the same with him so he can tell me to go away again? Is this just to completely confuse me?

But... .this time... .I get to let others see the weirdness for themselves and wonder on their own what exactly he's up to.

Right now... .that's enough to make me feel better. :-)

[missblue]

Is he planning to delete me and wants to still have access to my page? Is he wanting to see if I'm trashing him behind his back? Is this the new gf, if she does really exist? Are there some sort of pictures of them on this guy's page that I would see if I accepted the request? Is this his way of telling me he's engaged and moving to England? Given that his last contact with me was about a friend request he'd gotten from someone connected to me that he appeared to have brought up just to tell me to give him distance because he had a replacement, is he trying to get me to do the same with him so he can tell me to go away again? Is this just to completely confuse me?

And you know you things might have reached the level of insanity when none of these can easily be ruled out... .even when if the new girl does exist, they've only been dating less than 3 weeks.

[missblue]

So... .upon further analysis... .I'm pretty sure Phil's profile is him... .and the fiance is the new girl... .and that he's engaged to a chick from England he's met online in the last 3 weeks who may or may not know that his name is not really Phil and he doesn't live in England, or that the reason he wanted to post pics privately was so someone didn't recognize him.

I'm glad that there is somewhere that I can type that, and have someone not look at me as if I have three heads for even suggesting that as a possibility, let alone likely.

I messaged him asking what was with Phil's friend request, and he claimed not to know anyone named Phil, even when I linked the profile pointing out it he was one of their only friends, and he just added them 2 weeks ago.

Still not sure what response he was wanting from me by sending me the message... .but that's ok... .because I'm too busy laughing hysterically to give one.

I suppose it's safer for him than some local chick... .