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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Chasing_Ghosts
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« on: September 28, 2014, 04:46:01 PM »

So me and my ex started having more contact lately. Im wondering if its ok for me to be the one to initiate? She usually does. So should i keep it that way to not look desperate or make her feel engulfed? Im just confused on how im supposed to handle this situation... *sigh*
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« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2014, 05:42:43 PM »

In your case buddy I'd Excercise caution.

If she is in regular contact then let her keep initiating.

If you need to initiate,  do it in a very innocuous manner,  "hey how are you" or something.  Excercise a lot of caution.

It seems like she's painting you white so I'd let her keep doing that. Generally when they want to talk to you they will.
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« Reply #2 on: September 29, 2014, 02:13:47 PM »

Generally when they need you because nobody else is available, they will talk to you.

Why do you need this?
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« Reply #3 on: September 29, 2014, 10:56:11 PM »

Generally when they keep in touch with you after the discard it is to know they still maintain control over you should they have a need to be attended to by you
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« Reply #4 on: September 29, 2014, 11:52:42 PM »

So then why does she show the interest in wanting to hang out and "talk" sometime. And is sharing a bunch of personal details with me...

Is she just trying to make me feel safe and let my guard down?

And now i havent heard from her again since saturday night...

Push/pull?

Ive havent really tried initiating yet...

Is it likely ill just get ignored?
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