There is something i woiuld like to say that while on the surface is obvious but nevertheless took me a while an quite a journey to understand. The posts i have read an in general you will find are of the nature
1 How could they cheat on me, the awnser is how could they not it is almost impossible for someone who is BPD to NOT cheat on you furthermore they will blame YOU for it regardless of the circumstances any remorse or regret will be purely a show this is BPD an if you wish to maintain a relationship is something you need to understand it is possible overtime for a BPD individual to LEARN otherwise but it is unnatural for them once you grasp that they are not like you or ' normal " people and that you are in general placing unrealistic expectations upon them life becomes simpler
2 How could they be so cruel /selfish/uncaring Again people with BPD do not trust anyone ( not down deep and certainly not LONG term ) they are waiting/ scared of being crossed by you and in general adopt a strategy of do unto others before they do unto you it is a NATURAL defense mechanism to protect themselves
again regardless of how baseless this may be in fact , fact has little relavence when dealing with numerous
mental conditions
3 They seemed so genuine they tricked me ... .people with BPD are experts at tricking people not least of all THEMSELVES it is hard not to believe someone ho has convinced themselves on some level what they are saying is basically true
bottom line BPD is dangerous especially when you do not know what you are dealing with if you do KNOW then you should know what to expect so go forward with your eyes open and dont be suprised if you get burnt or even incinerated but realistically it is not the fault of the BPD individual it is going to come down to you either dealing with the failures you will face and the long hard winding road to a perhaps unlikely succes
Slyqq, are you still in this r /s ?
