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[SlyQQ]

Police came over last night throws of a tiff when she calmed down had a bit of a heart to heart. Boyfriend is already lucky to be alive fell asleep at wheel of car , was away for a while for various reasons said he drank himself to sleep every night and just wanted to die , balmes himself for her insane behaviour thinks she is just bi polar he knows she is crazy and i have told him to get psychological help but dont have high hopes for his chances any advice?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Kwamina]

Hi SlyQQ,

There's a lot going on here. Is this about the girl approaching 18 you mention in your earlier post that you're taking care of who you believe is almost certainly BPD?

Was her boyfriend's accident the reason the police came over? You say he fell asleep behind the wheel so I definitely agree with you that he's very lucky to be alive. How is he doing now? Does he also live with you?

[SlyQQ]

no we had to chase her down the street and bring her back she was screaming a lot i had to tell him not to put his hand over her mouth because that makes things worse he did a lot of crying to everything hunky dory today supris got to deal with child services about this on top of everything else now they have no idea this is sought of normal for me she apparently had been cutting her meds and because of the trouble she caused me decided to help by stop smoking weed at the same time instant explsion with normal BPD precision timing sigh

[SlyQQ]

When she ran to her hideaway and started crying for her mum he cursed her mum an asked why she still acted like a five year old and hadnt grown up . I said that that is the way it is an he was acting irrationally to expect otherwiswe with luck an help i told him it would take ten years

[Kwamina]

Thanks for answering my questions SlyQQ.

she apparently had been cutting her meds and because of the trouble she caused me decided to help by stop smoking weed at the same time instant explsion with normal BPD precision timing sigh

How long has she been using meds and do you feel like they helped her before? I believe she hasn't been officially diagnosed with BPD. Has she been diagnosed with another disorder and was she taking those meds for that?

BPD is quite a difficult disorder as you know very well but there are people who through hard work have learned to better manage their difficult thoughts and emotions and as a result have improved their behavior. For this to happen it is crucial that they fully acknowledge their issues and commit to working on them, often through therapy. Do you feel like she in any way has ever acknowledged her issues and/or would be willing to commit to therapy?

[SlyQQ]

if you even say BPD she will just about attack you meds are for bi polar 1 my current problem stems from that when i put her in i expected a backlash ( they had to tie her down to sedate her etc etc ) but it never came? then a couple of times i noticed she made these really strange comments about i had never done anything in front of the nurses now i relize she had alredy delivered the square up an once that ball starts rolling it doesnt stop

[SlyQQ]

She is bipolar 1 though personally not 100% sure how it pans under definition two hospitilizations for mania and i can tell you it is some mania

[Kwamina]

She is bipolar 1 though personally not 100% sure how it pans under definition two hospitilizations for mania

and i can tell you it is some mania

Hi again SlyQQ,

From what I know it (unfortunately) doesn't seem to be an uncommon occurrence that people with BPD get misdiagnosed as bipolar, if they ever get diagnosed at all.

How is she doing now? Could you tell us a bit more about her general behavior patterns that you find most worrying or difficult to deal with?

[SlyQQ]

she has been fine but out the back crying today Psyche was going to ring me today about safety plan developed with her so we can call police if needed she is very probably co morbid the only slight doubt i have is if she is bipolar 1 though she fits diagnostic criteria slightly suprisingly psyche cut her meds for bi polar ( which there have been no signs of lately ) which sought of makes sense

[Kwamina]

she has been fine but out the back crying today Psyche was going to ring me today about safety

plan developed with her so we can call police if needed

Well I'm glad she seems to be doing better now. Also good to have a safety plan in place just in case. You might also benefit from taking a look at some information we have here for assessing your safety situation: Safety First

How are you handling things yourself? I know that you've been through a lot in your life, not only this recent incident but other things before that too. Do you have any help or support to help you deal with things? Do you feel like you're sufficiently able to take care of your own mental and emotional well-being with everything that's going on?

[SlyQQ]

Well child satftey seem to be assesing that for me with a view if i dont shape up to do who knows what the psyche i saw once said i was clinically stressed with that brainwave i bade her farewell no real support within a thousand miles where my family resides and yes lots of other problems though thakfully only financially and work related

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders