Why i left

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I usually post on the leaving forum but figured i would share my story here.

I was involved with uBPDxgf for 2 1/2 years. As is usually the case in these kind of relationships things moved very fast and she was pregnant within a month of of us dating. In all honesty, i did not think it was a good idea to have a child with someone i just started dating and who alrady had two other young children. However, she won me over with her persistance going on and on about how we would be the perfect little family. I don't really have a big family and grew up without my dad and i always wanted a family of my own so i fell for it, hook line and sinker. Plus i've always been a stand up guy so i considred this would be me "doing the right thing".

The problems started from the very begining. To sumarize even half of the things this woman put me through would read like a novel but i won't get into those details. Long story short is that i was physically and emotionally abused, falsely arrested 4 times, subjected to constant suicide threats which lead to Child Services getting involved in our lives and cheated on with 10-20 different guys or so, the last of which was a friend of mine and i happened to walk in on it while my daughter was asleep in the next room.

Fast forward to two years after b/u and she's been through 4 or 5 replacements, the last of which she's trapped with a child. I am deeply embarasshed and ashamed that this woman is the mother of my children.

I found about BPD when i was with her, and try to be the one person that could understand her. I purchased the book walking on eggshells and even gave it to her to read. She would acknowledge that "something" was wrong with her and put on a face that she was trying to get better but her behavior just got more and more extreme.

If the person you're involved with is anywhere near as unbalanced as the one i was with the only option is to leave.

[clydegriffith]

I usually post on the leaving forum but figured i would share my story here.

I was involved with uBPDxgf for 2 1/2 years. As is usually the case in these kind of relationships things moved very fast and she was pregnant within a month of of us dating. In all honesty, i did not think it was a good idea to have a child with someone i just started dating and who alrady had two other young children. However, she won me over with her persistance going on and on about how we would be the perfect little family. I don't really have a big family and grew up without my dad and i always wanted a family of my own so i fell for it, hook line and sinker. Plus i've always been a stand up guy so i considred this would be me "doing the right thing".

The problems started from the very begining. To sumarize even half of the things this woman put me through would read like a novel but i won't get into those details. Long story short is that i was physically and emotionally abused, falsely arrested 4 times, subjected to constant suicide threats which lead to Child Services getting involved in our lives and cheated on with 10-20 different guys or so, the last of which was a friend of mine and i happened to walk in on it while my daughter was asleep in the next room.

Fast forward to two years after b/u and she's been through 4 or 5 replacements, the last of which she's trapped with a child. I am deeply embarasshed and ashamed that this woman is the mother of my children.

I found about BPD when i was with her, and try to be the one person that could understand her. I purchased the book walking on eggshells and even gave it to her to read. She would acknowledge that "something" was wrong with her and put on a face that she was trying to get better but her behavior just got more and more extreme.

If the person you're involved with is anywhere near as unbalanced as the one i was with the only option is to leave.

[peiper]

That's rough man. I can't imagine having a child with on of these people.

[clydegriffith]

That's rough man. I can't imagine having a child with on of these people.

She trapped me. Used me and having a child with me to get out of the horrible situation he created for herself, her other kids and their father. This seems to be her modus operandi as the latest replacement has also been trapped with a child. That's 5 kids in 6 years now.