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« on: December 19, 2014, 02:40:43 AM »

Hello there. Was with BPD ex for a year before we broke up back in May. I went NC on her immediately and months later, she started to text me saying she missed me/apologized. Ignored her for a good while but gave in (I know, bad). Started to "hang out" in October and it lead to sex. And its been going on since then. Once, sometimes two times a week, or once every 2 weeks. Strangely, there has been no drama or any talk of a relationship as of yet. I am trying my hardest not to get emotionally attached(They slightly creep in but I knock them out) as I know she was textbook borderline. Anyone been in this situation? I feel that something may happen if I keep doing this. Do they usually want a relationship again after a while of doing this?
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« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2014, 01:30:56 PM »

Hi drummerdude27  ,

After reading your post, I have a couple of questions for you.  Do you want to continue a physical relationship with her?  Do you think it is a good idea to continue a physical relationship with your ex without having an emotional attachment?

I cannot determine whether a pwBPD would eventually want a relationship or how your ex feels. From a generalized perspective, I believe that someone tends to get emotionally involved. 
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