Now I am not so sure as she is saying things like if she sees me she will KILL ME. I am very scared not for my safety right at this moment as she is away on holiday at her parents. But when she returns in two weeks.
How can I try and defuse the situation?
Wow... .Are you actually thinking she may be physically abusive or harmful to you when she returns home? If using Validation, S.E.T. and other communication tools in order to navigate your relationship with her to have it be non-violent isn't working for you to defuse the situation, then maybe you need to not be where she is when she comes back.
Seriously. If you are afraid for your safety, and using
The Lessons doesn't work to make things less volatile, then physically removing yourself from her presence is next... .What happens when you try using communication techniques with her, itgirl?