Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
March 20, 2025, 06:07:34 AM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
84
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: So hurt and confused  (Read 481 times)
Nortonio

Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Posts: 7



« on: December 26, 2014, 01:52:33 PM »

We have had a horrible week and continues to be on the outs. Christimas was full of tension and passive aggressive behavior. She is still accusing me of cheating last weekend and demands that she has too be my center of attention when we go in public. The other issue is that since we have been fighting so much things are not happening in our bedroom. She tells me the reason that she feel so insecrue is because we aren't close sexually. To tell you the truth with  all the fighting and belittling that is the last thing I want. All of my friends keep saying to leave and even with all the pain and threats and mean behavior its still hard to leave. Why do we do that? Why do we take all of this when we know it not good for us. I'm said broken and depressed almost mad at myself for staying through this all. Stress to the max!
Logged
Perdita
*****
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: 5 years in
Posts: 599



« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2014, 08:43:01 AM »

We have had a horrible week and continues to be on the outs. Christimas was full of tension and passive aggressive behavior.

Sorry that you are going through a high tention period.   The holidays have a way of bringing all that tension to the surface,


She is still accusing me of cheating last weekend and demands that she has too be my center of attention when we go in public.

In what way does she want to be the center of your attention? 


The other issue is that since we have been fighting so much things are not happening in our bedroom. She tells me the reason that she feel so insecrue is because we aren't close sexually. To tell you the truth with  all the fighting and belittling that is the last thing I want.

You are not alone.  Many of us here can relate to this.   


All of my friends keep saying to leave and even with all the pain and threats and mean behavior its still hard to leave. Why do we do that? Why do we take all of this when we know it not good for us. I'm said broken and depressed almost mad at myself for staying through this all. Stress to the max!

I don't know, but with each passing day I feel more and more like a damn fool for sticking around. 
Logged
Henry II
**
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic Partner
Relationship status: M
Posts: 77



« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2014, 02:10:37 PM »

BP's have a problem with trust. They also feel a lot of pain inside.

She will think that if you really loved her you would not have been out last weekend, or where ever you were. She may not even realize this. Just a feeling.

Try to read all the articles on this forum that will help you understand what is going on with them

First and formost is to stop the arguing. This is hard to practice.

As explained in some articles, you don't thro gasoline on a fire.

I feel your pain.
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!