Came into the shop where I work.

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Okay, BPDx is now engaged and has been since Christmas day. over time her appearance totally changed, new style of clothes etc,

Today she comes into my shop with her mum, looks absolutely the same as I've ever seen her. instead of the curly hair she has on her pics, straight hair, same style of clothes she used to wear etc. It's almost like she dressed herself as if it was last year. It was so weird.

I didn't speak to her, gave her an annoyed look etc, but this really got to me, so much so when she walked in I exclaimed "you have GOT to be joking". I mean we're on good terms now, talk every now and again, but I don't really want her in my place of work, I don't want her messing with my head etc

I'm thinking she's getting a bit fidgety because I haven't spoke to her since New Years Eve when I was a bit flippant and ended the call cos I had to go out. I think she's sensing that I've moved on and ain't really bothered. I mean, normally I'd be causing drama cos of my own emotional immaturity, but all this engagement nonsense... .changed a lot of things for me.

Maybe this is a new tactic, or maybe this is me reading into things?

[christoff522]

Okay, BPDx is now engaged and has been since Christmas day. over time her appearance totally changed, new style of clothes etc,

Today she comes into my shop with her mum, looks absolutely the same as I've ever seen her. instead of the curly hair she has on her pics, straight hair, same style of clothes she used to wear etc. It's almost like she dressed herself as if it was last year. It was so weird.

I didn't speak to her, gave her an annoyed look etc, but this really got to me, so much so when she walked in I exclaimed "you have GOT to be joking". I mean we're on good terms now, talk every now and again, but I don't really want her in my place of work, I don't want her messing with my head etc

I'm thinking she's getting a bit fidgety because I haven't spoke to her since New Years Eve when I was a bit flippant and ended the call cos I had to go out. I think she's sensing that I've moved on and ain't really bothered. I mean, normally I'd be causing drama cos of my own emotional immaturity, but all this engagement nonsense... .changed a lot of things for me.

Maybe this is a new tactic, or maybe this is me reading into things?

[Infern0]

Mine did this exact thing.

2 days later I got a can we talk call

[christoff522]

Mine did this exact thing.

2 days later I got a can we talk call

Last time she came in was Aug 24, within two hours I had a message saying basically that she came in to wish me a happy birthday.

This time I've not received anything from her. I think she now realises something, that SHES ENGAGED, and thus I'm not interested.

I would hesitate even to use the term "mine" nowadays, as she's nothing to me but a bloody annoyance.