new date, but ... havent I met you before?

[borderdude]

I am a magnet for these people, yes new girl , but ... .

- fast incoming, everything shall happends fast

- told me before we met, she felt a spiritual connection with me

- chatting about sexual stuff after a day, semed very occupied by it

- she think she is a bipolar

- projected her dirty properties onto me, she tought i was the same as her.

- gonna push me away if it feels right for her.

- fishing for sympathy, attention

confronting her prematurely sex talk, she rather defended her right , rather than excusing.

[OnceConfused]

trust your intuition.

[borderdude]

intuition report = run

heart report = attracted, but unhealty

[OnceConfused]

here you go, you have answered your own question.

Prayers is when you talk to GOD, intuition is when GOD talks to you.

I did listen to my intuition 8 years ago, and that has made all the differences.

[eyvindr]

borderdude --

If it's possible that, in the past, you maybe had similar gut feelings, but let your heart or intellect override it, think about how it ended up.

If it's generally ended up poorly, maybe think about that.

Remember -- the def of insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting a different outcome.

Can you change how you behave, and see how it turns out?

[Matt8888]

Dude, if you met this gal on Pof or other dating sites, they are loaded with disordered women.  Read their profiles carefully and sometimes you can spot them before you meet them.

I've been with 2 BPD'rs in long term relationships so I for damn sure should no better.  Went out with a new one a couple of times.  Beautiful girl... .  but I'm already hearing that voice in my head say RUN!  Look at their last couple of relationships.  Do they look like a tatted up sociopath?  Check.  Have they Bern in prison?  Check.  We're they abusive?  Check.

This chicks don't want nice guys like us.  And truth is, we don't want them.  Our codependent nature leads us to these types of women.

[borderdude]

Lesson learned ... .don't try to justify your own boundaries, to be able to fit a sick individual. Don't lie to yourself about who you really are. If you lie enough and let go of your own boundaries, you will loose yourself.