Hello Berto,
I just wanted to make sure that you weren't being pressured to accept something that may not be, though many of us can take on traits from the people with BPD in our lives while not being clinically diagnosable. I have lingering traits from my diagnosed with BPD (and depression) mother, for example.
The good news is that yes, you are young, and it seems that you do have a support system in your life, as well as that wonderful family of yours. Kids are gifts. It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out for support, Berto.
This board, however, is tailored for those of us who are either trying to improve the relationships with the people with BPD in our lives, or those of us detaching from failed relationships. As such, we don't have many resources to support you, specifically. Can you take a look at these link which can connect you to more appropriate boards?
Resources for BPD SufferersThis one may also help:
www.dbtselfhelp.com/I wish you well on your journey. It gives me hope for the people in my life that you can reach out like this to take control to improving the lives of your family, and most importantly, you
All The Best,
Turkish