My BPDs will not put anything in writing. That way he can blame MY lack of listening, loss of hearing, and/or "cognitive disabilities" with no tangible proof of what he really said.
Drives me nutz!
I got several such emails yesterday My ex partner was dissociating and baiting. She started sending email early AM because she wants different days for Easter. I have a court order and politely answered her that if she wants the kids for a visit it's Ok and I'm adhering to the order. I'm indifferent to her behavior and I accept that she's not going to change. I didn't JADE or take the bait. By late PM she simply said Ok and agreed to the visit. She's emotionally immature and was railing against my boundaries. I stuck to them. She's also called me crazy on more than one occasion.
It took time and practice and it doesn't drive me crazy like it used to - it's BPD. I depersonalize the mental illness. I think her family is coming from out if town and she feels bad the kids are not with her.