msg my ex

[zundertowz]

So I was kicked out of my home by my BPD GF about 2 weeks ago. The fight was over me not being excited enough about getting married. It was something she obsessed over daily. It was the last straw for me, the fight lead to physical and mental abuse. My question is should I write her a email laying out my feeling or should I just let it go and move on. I still cant help but love her after all the awfull things ive been threw.

[Aurylian]

What would you want the letter to accomplish?

I cannot see that it would help her in any way.  You could always write the letter for your own therapy and not send it. 

If you have made your decision then I would move on, but make sure you are getting proper aftercare (therapy) so you don't end up in the same situation again (like I did).

[zundertowz]

Im not 100 percent sure what it would accomplish.  I guess im just having fantasies about being civil and ending things on a positive note... . I know im being crazy.  There are also 2 children of hers involved.

[Aurylian]

I think I would spend the time on personal reflection and growth.  Learning why you got into this relationship and what will you do if she comes back into your life.  If she does, you will benefit greatly from reading the Lessons section on this site.  Great communication tools and tools to help you avoid enmeshment.