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Last night uBPDbf was out until 8:30pm, which is about 3hrs. After he usually comes home from work.  When he returned I was pleasant, no drama or upset, asked where he was and just had normal conversation... .although I could sense something was up, but nothing was said. 

About an hour later our dogs were sleeping really cute together, so I asked for his phone to take a picture. Which he gave me and I did.  I then asked him to text it to me... .I never got the text.  I asked him this am to text it to me, his response was "sorry, he must have deleted it."  What the heck, why?  That feels intentional!

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Do they act this way to "force" you to leave, create the conflict?

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I think it is because some of them are that thoughtless. My husband will do things that seem really friggin' mean and I am all ready to go crazy. I will say something and he will act like it was no big deal and respond with something like, "Oh, I just wasn't thinking."

Just this morning, he posted something about how he can't remember how many years it has been since he did something with someone. He and I did that activity several weeks ago and I thought we both really enjoyed it. Now, he doesn't seem to remember it. I almost said something ugly like, "I guess I don't qualify as someone." Instead, I just said "Ouch" because he clearly forgot about me. Just like it sounds like your partner totally forgot about you and deleted the picture.

Deleting the picture so quickly seems a bit suspicious!

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Deleting the picture so quickly seems a bit suspicious!

That's what I thought.  I took the picture on his phone and it was just of our dogs.  I even asked him to send it so I wasn't playing around on his phone.