Hello adriana8218,
Welcome to the Parents Board, we are glad that you are here though sorry to learn about the situation that has brought you to us. This must be so very difficult to know how to navigate with your adult child. The stakes are very high for you.
We have a great deal of information here that can help you learn how to communicate with your daughter to get some cooperation from her. Have you studied up on BPD much to get an understanding of the causes of her behaviors?
There is a collection of the Tools and Lessons in the right side bar for you to take a look at. It's a lot and will take time. Have you practiced validation in your communications? Is it helping? Here is a link to some info on validation:
Validate the Valid Be sure to check out the link at the bottom of that page to get ideas on how to apply the skill of validation and why it is so important to use with people who suffer with BPD.
We hope to see you back very soon. We are here to help.
lbj