Hi Kimmom,
I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is in crisis so much in her life. Being out of touch and far away must be adding to your feelings of helplessness.
It's good that she wants to contact you again, it is a sign that she has some clarity from the fog of the disorder and depression and I can understand why you would not put much stock in this since she has been cycling in and out of suicidality for so long now.
I hope that reading the last 2 parts of this information can give you a direction to explore or address some questions you might have about involuntary commitment:
Crisis Safety Plan: when a family member has BPDDo you see a way for the info in part 1 to be implemented (to any degree) for your daughter if she chooses to go back to her college town?
lbjnltx