You'll keep her rom falling to the same fate by being the loving, involved, caring dad that you have been and continue to be. One thing it took me a while to accept, is that we can't shelter our kids from everything bad about our ex or from the world. What we can do that will help them now and when they are older is to guide them, teach them healthy ways to cope with the hard, crappy, uncomfortable stuff of BPD and unhealthy behavior
Thanks, im trying to accept that fact. its a hard one with my daughter, My ex is just like my dad (NPD) so I know first hand the damage that is done, the pain and anguish from the soul crushing treatment by these people. The positive thing I try to think of is that I can validate my daughter and help her cope and hopefully come out of this without to much damage done to her. I will know exactly how she feels because I experienced it so I think that will go along way.
I can't imagine how hard it must be to have these relationships with your step kids be severed because of your ex. Know that as you help your daughter with all the drama of her mom, she may become a healthy example for the other kids. When those kids are older they may seek you out, once mom is no longer ruling things.
That's my hope, I would feel a lot better if the real dads were more involved and that they had someone in their corner.
My only advice is spend as much time with your daughter as you can and show her what a drama free family life is like.
Thanks, that's my goal