Is this another example of the Push-Pull cycle? Translation please :-)

[tryingtohelp]

Hello ,  I'd be grateful if someone could offer a translation of the following message I received from my BPD (diagnosed) SO.   This arrived out of the blue after a long period of stable interaction , we have been getting along well for the last year or so without dramas, (she lives in another town)  Her ex has moved out recently , (again , again) and she has been coming to me for support and I had received 67 texts over the previous couple of days, some at 2 in the morning.

I assume she is under some pressure at the moment as she is looking for another home , cannot find work and has had a big bust up with her ex.

She was going to come and stay for a few days, we were both looking forward to it,  I even put $100 in her account to cover fuel etc (she has no money)

The next day she txts to say she can't come and to let me know she has credited the money back to my account.

another day goes by and I received this message:

'Is someone stupid or something. Does someone think you are going to move me into your home ? Like Happy Families ?  Or that we may have a baby or something ?  Oh somethings wrong alright '

I did not reply

The following day she sent another txt saying 'Have a good day' 

I really don't know what to make of her message, we have been friends for 7 years, I care about her, she comes to stay quite often ( I have my own home and live alone)   My first impression was that she may have thought I was pressuring her to move in ( I haven't)  Another friend's impression was the opposite, she thought it meant that my BPD person had been dropping hints at moving in and that I hadn't responded, so she was annoyed.

I would be interested other impressions of what she mean't by this, I was confused by it.

[Haye]

I would not start trying to guess what her motivation is, or at least not to give too much weight on the guesses but rather ask her directly. It is likely none of us comes up with the right guess and it's possible she doesn't know it either.

To contradict my own words: The Have a good day does sound like she wasn't happy for you not responding to her at all. Perhaps she heard some speculation - maybe from her ex - and was scared you want more out of your r/s than she is ready.

I would call her, apologize for not replaying at all, and explaining that i actually didn't quite understand what she was saying. I would ask her if she is doing OK, and stuff like that. Maybe even ask her that if she wants to talk about anything about your r/s she should go ahead.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey tryingtohelp,  I suggest you proceed w/caution.  67 texts is a red flag.     Presumably her fear of abandonment kicked in.  If I can make a suggestion, it would be to establish good boundaries and keep them, because they are likely to be tested.  LJ

[tryingtohelp]

Thanks for the replies,  Lucky Jim, I had wondered about the volume of incoming txts, they were mostly light and pleasant though, like asking what was I having for dinner ? what was I doing tonight etc ,  she isn't normally that clingy and not normally a big texter ( I didn't mind, it was nice to hear from her but it certainly was out of the normal for her.)  And now total radio silence.    In an earlier message she had mentioned how she didn't want to end up 'homeless'.