We are in the hater phase should I stay?

[bhella]

We have been together for 20 years, since I knos about his condition I try to be more considerate. But is too hard. He's reach the hater phase, won't accept therapy since there is nothing wrong with him,is me the one who's wrong and we have a teen. I moved away for a month and she took it really bad, we talked and agree to make radical changes but somehow we are back on the same point again. 

[ForeverDad]

Hi, thanks for joining us, you can get a welcome when you post on the Help Desk board or separation/divorce support over on the Family Law board.  Frankly, as you've found out, you can't enforce any reconciliation agreements.  What's left is to take charge of your own life, setting healthy and firm boundary, though that often means the marriage ends and your lives' interconnections have to be unwound.

You child is a teen, so within a few years he or she will age out of the scope of family court.  Since this is the Parenting board, how is your teen?  Controlled or overly influenced by mother?  Or seeing reality more or less and if/when the marriage ends then will want to live with you?

Again, welcome!  You will find informed and practical peer support here.  We've been there, done that.  Let us Pay It Forward regarding our hard won successes, strategies and tactics to deal with entitled and oppositional people.