Amazed at FINALLY only very recently learning about BPD

[BPD3]

  I have never done this before in my life!  I only found this website a couple of hours ago.  I must say that I ONLY first found out about BPD from watching a TV show about an American NFL player who was diagnosed. 

As I began to research about this condition a few days ago I was soo amazed!  This explains three generations of behaviour I have witnessed in my family, but could never before figure out what was going on! 

I have been reading everything I could on the Brain for the past couple of years.  Two books I found soo helpful were also by American authors who run clinics: 

1)  The Mood Cure (Excellent information)

2)  Depression-Free Naturally (also Excellent)

Our 18 year old son became very ill this last year of High School.  It began when a girlfriend suddenly out of the blue "broke up" with him unexpectedly on the phone.  He was so upset he went and locked himself in the bathroom, laid down in the bathtub and proceeded to have a panic attack.  He went on over the next few months to display depression/crying, obsessive compulsive hand washing, high anxiety.  I gave him the amino acids, minerals, vitamins, healthy oils, and emotional support from that moment on (September, 2014 this all began). 

It was soo confusing at first - I sensed that he could have gone right into an emotional nervous breakdown. 

After I watched the NFL life biography I realized that this NFL player was describing the very condition I had been closely observing ... .

I will be carefully reading the books by Professor Dr. John Gunderson (specialist in BPD)  I am typing this and I hope I am doing this right... .

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[tristesse]

Welcome BPD3, I am so glad you found us.

This website and board are full of information and support, you can continue to gain knowledge and skills here, as well as he books you are reading. Knowledge Is power.

You said had experienced 3 generations of BOD behaviors, please tell us a little more about this, and especially about the 18 year old son who suffering now. There are so many people who are experiencing the effects of loving someone with BPD, this is a great place to get advice. The more of your story you share, the better able the members  are to help you.

If you look over to the right side of this board you will see the Family connections box, there are Tools and Lessons over there that are quite helpful. I suggest that everybody start here. This is where I learned the skills that help me with my own daughter.

Good Luck and I look forward to hearing from you.

[livednlearned]

Hi BPD3,

Yes, you're doing this right  

I wanted to join tristesse in welcoming you to bpdfamily, I'm so glad you reached out and felt comfortable sharing your story here. People here understand what it's like to live with and love someone with BPD. Is your son living with you right now? How is your relationship with him?

What are some of the behaviors you are concerned with at the moment? Is your son receiving any treatment (and accepting your supplements and emotional support)?

Finding bpdfamily was a turning point in my life and I hope that you'll find the same support and understanding. We're here for you and looking forward to hearing more.

LnL