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deadmau5

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« on: July 23, 2015, 05:06:15 PM »

I have been dating this girl that has BPD for a few months now. She has broke up with me a few times before, but she would end up texting a few days later wanting me back.

This last time however, she got a replacement and has been with him for 3 weeks.

Is it unreasonable to expect her to come back when her r/s fails, or have I been used all up at this point?
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« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2015, 03:40:30 AM »

Has she said anything to you over these 3 weeks? Have you remained NC?
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« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2015, 10:07:29 AM »

Has she said anything to you over these 3 weeks? Have you remained NC?

Yeah, complete NC.
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« Reply #3 on: July 24, 2015, 12:20:09 PM »

Hey deadmau5, It seems like you are open to jumping back in the ring with your BPDxGF, if the opportunity presents itself.  Have you given any thought to why you might want to repeat the same pattern of break-up/make-up?  Have you also considered why you entered into a r/s with a pwBPD in the first place?  These are hard questions, I know, but the answers might prove helpful to you.

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« Reply #4 on: July 24, 2015, 08:13:35 PM »

pwBPD often go to weaker men when in a rebound. Id give it 2-3 months. If she texts you in this time shes going to probably come back and ditch the guy completely, remain NC... .When/If she texts you she is putting herself in your orbit and you should ask to meet-up. If she declines just say ok well if you change your mind ever let me know. It will pierce through any games she may play or indecisiveness. In the mean time work on yourself! I've been getting outside for at-least an hour a day and i'm no longer pale Laugh out loud (click to insert in post). Sticking with lifting weights is going to be a much tougher task for me.
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