Intro - adult daughter with PPD

[mariakay]

Hello, I have an adult daughter(age 28) whom I believe had BPD. For the last few years, things have gotten better-dare I say almost normal. Lately, she has slipped back into some older patterns of erratic emotional episodes. Although they only last an hour or so, they can sometimes involve self injury. I am looking for ways to respond that do not make things worse and perhaps set some boundaries in our relationship.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[twojaybirds]

I too have an adult daughter now 21.  Although things seem so much more 'typical" than a few years back, I too can see and can be drawn into her emotional needs.

I use SET in very few words.  She prefers texting which makes SET even easier as I can really pick and chose my response.

my format is usually like the following:

It sounds like you are (upset, angry, hurt, mad)

I remember when (he broke up with me, I lost my job, my car broke down). It can be a trying time for sur.

Perhaps you (could have prevented this, could fix it by, take a break, )

I am out straight the next three days but let me know how it is going.


Then I don't respond to ay more texts.  She always move past it and I then don't hear from her for a while.

If she is self harming your T in SET could address that. Perhaps something like:

If you are self harming I suggest you call a doctor for some help.  I can get you a few names and numbers if you want.

Learn the language that works for you and it will improve things for all.