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After we had a decent evening. It’s now 11:30 pm and she comes in the bedroom and sits on the bed and says I am going to write a list of things I want to accomplish tomorrow. She wrote a few things down. She never does this. She talked during the evening how she wants to do better and be motivated to have a life.
After she writes her notes she then says “Ok, now it’s time for me to abuse you.” I said playfully oh no…she said oh yes it has to happen. At first I thought she was going to tickle me or something of that nature like we used to do. That wasn’t what she meant. She then got herself situated cross legged and said “ok I want truth and brutal honesty. Then she stopped and said “ should I talk to you or not about this?” I just laid there like nothing was really going on, watching TV but also wondering, oh man what is going to transpire here. She did not pursue her “abuse”.
I have no idea what she is going to spring on me. It’s coming. It’s just a matter of when.
Has anyone ever experienced something like this?
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One possibility - she's interested in S & M and wants to introduce a little 'rough' sex play into your mutual lives.
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thanks for your reply... .but I know that isn't it. She has no sexual interest at all. It has been almost 2 1/2 years since we have. It was coming in the form of questioning. She seems to try to entrap me with questions that whatever I answer usually doesn't satisfy her. Then detaches further from me.
Sometimes I just feel like saying I plead the 5th...
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Yep, we can not win. Next time she brings it up do exactly what you did last time. Do not engage... .If she wants to detach, not anything you can do. Let her. She will be back. You just don't have to help her "abuse" you...
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Quote from: deux soeurs on August 05, 2015, 01:23:12 PM
Yep, we can not win. Next time she brings it up do exactly what you did last time. Do not engage... .If she wants to detach, not anything you can do. Let her. She will be back. You just don't have to help her "abuse" you...
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Nice going on not engaging and keeping your cool.
Perhaps she means for you to make a list? I mean they were both firsts right?
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Does she get the impression you believe she achieves nothing and that she is always abusing you. So she is trying to provoke you by exagerating it? Challanging you to prove it
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To me, she did exactly what she said she was going to do. She abused you. Are you not now wondering what it was all about? are you not waiting for another shoe to drop? With no end or answer in sight? Sounds like abuse to me.
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