Wow, glad that worked for you. That would have set my husband off big time. It's such a learning process, trying to gauge what will work, and I think a lot of that comes over time. I keep feeling like I just have to find the "key" to learning how to deal with what will/won't set off BPDh.
It would be easier if he'd just start having more self control, but I can't and won't depend on that. I need to figure out the most effective ways to deal with MY spouse.
Formflier, how long did it take for you to get to where you are now? I've been married three years, and only a few good months among those years, and those were just recent. Now we seems to be nosediving towards the earth again... .
