First time on this site, just realized my daughter is suffering from BPD

[Hope03]

I probably don't have to tell anyone what a struggle this has been.  I have  a 28 year old daughter who is the oldest of 3.  She's always had issues with interpersonal relationships but we just thought that was her strong personality.  When my husband passed away suddenly 3 years ago she started a downward spiral.  She's such a kind and loving kid (I know she's 28) but struggles so much everyday to get by.  She never likes her job because there's always a conflict with coworkers or her boss, she spends impulsively which keeps me needing to fully support her, she is beautiful but doesn't believe it and has tons of dates that do nowhere, her relationship with her siblings is strained because she needs so much from them.  She is totally unaccepting of my being in a relationship with someone even though I only spend weekends with him.  I'm so sad for her I wish I could figure out how to help her.  She is seeing a therapist but it's new.  I'm looking for someone who specializes in BPD so hopefully that  will help.

I think I am hoping someone will read this and tell me that she can get better.  Thanks for listening.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Eyeamme]

Hi Hope03!

I think you came to the right place. I think that you can gain a lot of insight by reading everything you can--—-------->

[Rapt Reader]

Hello, Hope03 &

Eyeamme is right, you have come to the right place! Every parent on this Board has gone through what you are going through, and felt the way you feel. And, if you follow eyeamme's arrow    the information on the right-hand side of this page will help you get a better understanding of what your daughter is going through, and how her mind works. And you'll learn the tips that we've all found that can help us communicate better with our BPD children (even the adult children), which can help to make things better.

I, personally, have found that there is hope--my own adult (38) son was diagnosed with BPD in April of 2013, and since then he's been in recovery for it and is doing way better (his story is at the green link below, in my signature line). I've learned that once I understood how he thinks and feels, and figured out how to detach myself from taking his words and actions personally, it's been so much easier to love him and support him in ways that make life easier for the whole family. Knowledge is power, and that power can really give us the hope we need to make things better  

The best thing that you have going for you is that your daughter is now seeing a Therapist, and that is great! With my son, once he realized that he had a problem and decided to get help for it, things got better... .With the right Therapies and the right Therapist(s), recovery really is possible--my son is a testament to that. Keep posting your story, and reading all you can on this site, and ask your questions. We really want to help!