Finally it is almost over

[Mike76]

Is has been a while since i have been to these boards,  but decided to stop by.   Maybe just to let everyone know there is hope that one day things can wrap up.

I married my dBPDw almost 7 years ago,  last week we signed the divorce papers.  (7 years ago I never heard of a personalty disorder let alone BPD). 

Years 1-2 of married, things became stressed just after the walk down the isle

Year  3 I started reading and understanding about BPD

Year 4-5 lots of counseling, individual and marriage

End of year 5  asked for a divorce, she fought be tooth and nail for me to pull the divorce papers, but she changed very little

Last week to avoid going to court she signed to papers.

I feel relived be still need not need to really start working on myself

[ReclaimingMyLife]

Congrats, Mike76!  Sounds like you've done a TON of work over the last 7 years.  You may now intentionally shift the focus of work back to you, but I sure hope you give yourself gobs of credit for all you have already done!

WAY  TO  GO!

[livednlearned]

It's a long road, a lot of exhaustion along the way.

What are some of the things you feel got lost in the marriage, not to mention divorce? Anything in particular you feel ready to work on?

[whirlpoollife]

Nice that you posted an update. It takes time to let it sink in. And more time to get your self back to you. But you will.

Be grateful for learning about PD when you did and for you for sticking to your grounds in year five for not caving to pull the divorce papers!