Christmas promises promises promises

[OutOfGas]

I'm holding fast to my decision not to allow our 32yo DD to visit us Christmas week. She is trying all the BPD techniques to guilt us into giving in to her wish (demand). I am limiting calls and using JADE, but I still feel like a bad bad mother. She promises to not cause any problems... .no arguments, no raging, no drama, no confrontations... .etc etc etc. I've heard it all before. There have been no good holidays for many many years. She doesn't change; I've tried so hard to cope; I'm setting a big boundary now.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Eyeamme]

Out-of-gas,

I have a 34 yo uBPD daughter. We were suppose to go to West Coast to see her and my my sil and 2 grandchildren. She was badgering me so badly I cancelled trip. She then got verbally abusive and I blocked her. I set a limit for the first time. I didn't even know I had a limit.

All I can say is that if you set a limit never waver.

J