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Question: For individuals who were in a BPD or uBPD relationship: What is the total score for your answers?
83-96 /Extreme emotional neglect - 21 (16.2%)
56-82 /Severe emotional neglect - 38 (29.2%)
28-55 /Moderate emotional neglect - 50 (38.5%)
12-27 /Mild emotional neglect - 18 (13.8%)
7-11 /Some lonliness - 3 (2.3%)
0-6 /No neglect - 0 (0%)
Total Voters: 130

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Stitch2662
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« Reply #30 on: November 09, 2019, 01:31:23 PM »

I scored a 64.

My mom has BPD, and my dad while around was working a lot. Being the oldest and left in charge and told I wasn't good enough growing up when I didn't succeed with tasks that should have been left for adults really shaped some of my answers.

I'm extremely extroverted so while I prefer to be with others when you factor in my depression those questions were harder to answer than I thought. Even if I change my answers, I still fall into the severe category.
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« Reply #31 on: November 09, 2019, 01:48:00 PM »

I would be a four in most categories, though with lots of therapy and hard work on being a better person than my family members, some of those scores don't apply now though they would have in the past. I still have plenty of the feelings described at times though and I think that will always be true, as we can never fully recover from childhood emotional neglect. One of my main challenges is my immediate family and some of my relatives have not changed or grown, and I find that people who grew up in healthy families treat me much better than my own immediate family and some of my relatives.
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« Reply #32 on: November 26, 2019, 07:52:42 PM »

73

Some tough questions involved.

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« Reply #33 on: January 10, 2020, 01:25:38 AM »

Scored a 40.
My dad always told I was "too sensitive".
Only recently found out he told my older suster the same thing.
Gotta think on this more.
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« Reply #34 on: February 17, 2020, 01:08:02 PM »

I scored 48 not surprised, although I was in a secure family I always felt I never fitted in as they are very into sport.   I hate it and being the only sibling that did often had time on my own doing my own hobbies which fit well with the loner.
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« Reply #35 on: July 31, 2020, 04:29:37 PM »

I scored a 27. I felt a little conflict about some of the answers.

I think my mom has an untreated anxiety disorder and I know my dad had anger issues growing up. Aside from blow out arguments when I was teen, my childhood was stable, my family was middle-class (I benefit from generational wealth despite college debt), and I have had consistently positive and loving friendships throughout my life. I am definitely on the anxious and controlling side, which I acknowledge and try to reign in during conflict so it doesn't negatively hinder my life. I think with more time and spending more energy on learning about the tools for coping with personality disorders, I could retake it for improved results.
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