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Question: For individuals who were in a BPD or uBPD relationship: What is the total score for your answers?
73-96 /Extreme emotional neglect - 20 (17.4%)
56-82 /Severe emotional neglect - 34 (29.6%)
28-55 /Moderate emotional neglect - 46 (40%)
12-27 /Mild emotional neglect - 13 (11.3%)
7-11 /Some lonliness - 2 (1.7%)
0-6 /No neglect - 0 (0%)
Total Voters: 115

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Author Topic: SELF ASSESSMENT | Childhood Emotional Neglect Assessment  (Read 6336 times)
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
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« Reply #30 on: November 09, 2019, 01:31:23 PM »

I scored a 64.

My mom has BPD, and my dad while around was working a lot. Being the oldest and left in charge and told I wasn't good enough growing up when I didn't succeed with tasks that should have been left for adults really shaped some of my answers.

I'm extremely extroverted so while I prefer to be with others when you factor in my depression those questions were harder to answer than I thought. Even if I change my answers, I still fall into the severe category.
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Sibling
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« Reply #31 on: November 09, 2019, 01:48:00 PM »

I would be a four in most categories, though with lots of therapy and hard work on being a better person than my family members, some of those scores don't apply now though they would have in the past. I still have plenty of the feelings described at times though and I think that will always be true, as we can never fully recover from childhood emotional neglect. One of my main challenges is my immediate family and some of my relatives have not changed or grown, and I find that people who grew up in healthy families treat me much better than my own immediate family and some of my relatives.

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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
What is your relationship status with them: Divorce in progress
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« Reply #32 on: November 26, 2019, 07:52:42 PM »


Some tough questions involved.


It is, was, and always will be, all about her.
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
What is your relationship status with them: Engaged originally on Dec 2017. Have not seen her or contacted her from July 2019 to Dec 2019.
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« Reply #33 on: January 10, 2020, 01:25:38 AM »

Scored a 40.
My dad always told I was "too sensitive".
Only recently found out he told my older suster the same thing.
Gotta think on this more.
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