Defining BPD

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Hi all,can i ask a question that has been praying on my mind for a while.My 20 yr old daughter has a diagnosis of BPD.She frequently gets herself involved in risky destructive behaviours ie alcohol,very occassional drug use,severe anger issues where she has physically assaulted people,choosing "bad boys"all the time,lying,manipulating etc,etc.with a diagnosis of BPD is she 100% in control when she gets involved in above behaviours?Is she fully capable of making good choices and avoiding bad ones with her BPD diagnosis? Her psychiatrist seems to think she is capable of making good choices but when i read about BPD i have my doubts.Id be delighted to hear your comments.Thanks.

[Chilli]

Hi all,can i ask a question that has been praying on my mind for a while.My 20 yr old daughter has a diagnosis of BPD.She frequently gets herself involved in risky destructive behaviours ie alcohol,very occassional drug use,severe anger issues where she has physically assaulted people,choosing "bad boys"all the time,lying,manipulating etc,etc.with a diagnosis of BPD is she 100% in control when she gets involved in above behaviours?Is she fully capable of making good choices and avoiding bad ones with her BPD diagnosis? Her psychiatrist seems to think she is capable of making good choices but when i read about BPD i have my doubts.Id be delighted to hear your comments.Thanks.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[twojaybirds]

That is a great question.  Once I took the definition of a chameleon and changed it to pwBPD and it helped me delineate some of the complexities.  As ridiculous as it it here it goes:


Some chameleon species pwBPD are able to change their skin colors realities through story telling.

The primary purpose of color change  story telling in chameleons pwBPD  is social signaling, with emotional  camouflage secondary. Color change  Story telling signals a chameleon's pwBPD physiological condition and intentions to others.  chameleons. Chameleons  PwBPD tend to show tell darker colors stories when angered, or attempting to scare or intimidate others, while males show telling lighter, multi-colored patterns stories when courting  (or gaslighting.)  females

Some species, such as Smith's dwarf chameleon,  pwBPD adjust their colors stories for camouflage in accordance with the vision of the specific predator species (bird or snake) that they are being threatened by

The desert dwelling Namaqua Chameleon also uses Some pwBPD  color change  their stories as an aid to thermoregulation  emotional regulation, becoming black in the cooler morning to absorb heat more efficiently, then a lighter grey color to reflect light during the heat of the day. It They may show tell both colors stories  at the same time, neatly separated left from right by the emotional spine.