The National Institute of Mental Health's view on the cause of BPD
Here is a link to some additional information on this:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17988414
Personally, this is how I see my role in the development of the BPD traits that my dd16 has had:
She was born a sensitive soul, the opposite of myself. I am a cerebral type... .thinking and reasoning over emotions. There is a mismatch to some degree there. To counter balance her emotions I replied with reason and logic instead of validating her feelings and helping her learn to balance herself. The invalidating environment only added to her emotionality. She was diagnosed w/separation anxiety at 2 years old, even though I was with her constantly. When difficulties with school began and the hormones began to rage at the same time her emotions became unmanageable for her and myself and me not understanding what she was struggling with. At age 11 she was dx w/ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and went untreated despite being in therapy and working through a parenting program. At age 12 she was diagnosed by her new therapist and through inpatient complete psych testing as "emerging BPD" and MDD (Major Depression). At age 13 she began having psychotic episodes (possibly from depression). After 2 years of individual/family therapy (partial Dialectical Behavior Therapy) she continued to spiral downward in her depression, psychosis, raging, self injury, risky behaviors, lack of identity and absence of empathy. She went into residential treatment for 10 months where she was able to get stable, learn skills and return home to us.
She was born predisposed to develop the disorder, had I known how to parent a highly sensitive child... . if someone had used those terms our lives may have been different than they were. Instead terms were used that directed her treatment towards parenting a "difficult child" and a "strong willed child", which she was, yet the underlying problem that drove her "strong will and difficulty" was her sensitivity.
I hope that this information can help you accept the present and move forward in your journey to parent your son and get him the treatment he needs.
ljnltx
Yeah where do they get the data from ,,,the borderline personality person themselfs. Of course the parents are at fault just ask the BPD person. Their perception is always spot on... .on blaming someone else. Unfortunately they are prewired to blame others and be unpleasant self destructive people with zero insight. When asked they will blame it on their parents and the idiot psychiatrists will believe their stories.
